me the life and times of jennell ujima

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another-monday   7774 04.22.14
1000-life-hacks   950 04.20.14

I’m learning that it takes a certain level of femininity to allow a man to be masculine

Feminine beauty is nothing to be ashamed of. I don’t need to be hard, controlling or dominating.

I still feel a certain level of guilt about the fact that my ex always stepped up to the plate and I still found ways to emasculate him…

But I need to let go of that guilt, like my mother, I carry it around like a bag of bricks and it won’t help me grow.

It won’t help me to forgive myself.

I’m not just going to open up to people automatically. I hold people to a really high standard and I’d rather be the one doing the hurting than the one who is hurt.

But that carries a level of guilt with it too. What a catch 22. Ha!

These are things I want for myself though, to be feminine, inviting, soft, to allow people to rest in my presence. To be as light as I once was.

Maybe I don’t want to go back, I just want to be better.

2 04.20.14
anime-domination   189 04.19.14

browngurl:

At home with Armina…

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yumnaaa.com   3209 04.19.14
katrinadickson   9403 04.19.14

I wanted to love all your wrongs
Your ins and outs
Your open wounds
To caress your deepest hurt
But I can’t even promise myself that fantasy
How can I promise to love you
When I haven’t even had a love affair with myself?

04.19.14
mydailyinspirationblog   150 04.19.14

I need to focus more on loving myself and making a LIFE (notice I didn’t say living)
Moreso than what’s going to land me a husband
When will all this get old to me?

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Selfie just bc my eyes look pretty in this lighting

Selfie just bc my eyes look pretty in this lighting

2 04.19.14

coconut-coffee:

my wallet needs to be as thick as my thighs

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fxckyork   149455 04.19.14

linrenzo:

I swear this movie is the best

kinghanalister   162542 04.19.14
accras:

elegantpaws:

hazeleyed1:

flexibilityisfreedom:

Asia Monet Ray, age 8. Source video.

Slay on girl!

Fantastic. Great form well on its way.

WOW

accras:

elegantpaws:

hazeleyed1:

flexibilityisfreedom:

Asia Monet Ray, age 8. Source video.

Slay on girl!

Fantastic. Great form well on its way.

WOW

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asiaraymonet   27921 04.19.14
darkesthorizons:

neptuneisforlovers:

ITS NOT SEWING SUPPLIES!

My question is how does every single person identify with this, is it like a secret rule to use those for sewing supplies?

darkesthorizons:

neptuneisforlovers:

ITS NOT SEWING SUPPLIES!

My question is how does every single person identify with this, is it like a secret rule to use those for sewing supplies?

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ofela   477561 04.19.14

Driver, lower my tuition please.

ohnahhureallyneedtochill:

misterdelfuego:

ignoranceaintshit:

supreme-insanity:

I don’t have enough money for my basic needs. 

Working 40+ hours just to pay my rent

Now I don’t even have a single cent

Tuition is high, I gotta pay for books

Oh i’m so broke and I don’t wanna look

I popped open my wallet, no funds to count

my credit declined and my check just bounced

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supreme-insanity   17032 04.19.14